3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

Hi guys! How are you? I’m happy to be back with a brand new post and today I’m going talk about something we do so often that at times crushes our self-esteem… comparing ourselves to other people. So I’m going to talk you through 3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People. Keep reading…

Comparing our life to other people’s lives is something that is human. If I ask you if you’ve ever done that before, I’m sure you would say yes. There is nothing wrong with that.. to a certain limit. I think nowadays people often complain about their lives triggered by what they continuously see on social media. We have entered an era where we use hashtags such as #lifegoals #relationshipgoals to express how bad we would like to have what those people have.

If I have to take myself as an example, I have often compared my life to other’s whether they were friends, colleagues, fellow bloggers, Instagram stars and so on. I remember that when I would do that I would never be grateful or satisfied with the life that I have right now. I would complain, I would ask myself why I don’t have that or this. Simply, my vision that I have for my life would become a total blur. Why? Because I’m trying to focus or imitate someone’s vision with mine and that’s not good. Not good for your self-esteem, self-growth, self-development and self-love. So here’ show you can stop comparing your life to other people’s.

3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

1 – Understand that everyone has their own path

I’m saying this first because this is the most essential thing to understand. Everyone walking around planet earth has their own path. Life events happen at different time periods for everyone. If you see your best friend getting her/his dream job at an early age doesn’t mean you have failed as a person or that you will never get your dream job. It may take you longer or maybe you’ll end up doing something else that becomes more satisfying than if you would end up at your dream job. Simply enjoy every opportunity that comes your way. Don’t see life as a competition.

The society also loves to put an age to every single life event. And if life doesn’t work its way out in that order of the society, you’ll be ”missing out” or not be ”successful’ yet. I’m talking about events such as graduating, meeting the ideal partner, getting married, landing the dream job, getting kids, buying your first house and so on. Let go of society’s time schedule and understand that everyone is different therefore everyone has a different path in life. Eliminate the noise and focus on getting back on the right path and that’s your path only.

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2 – Don’t let social media fool you

Social media is a place where we love to share the great and perfect things of our lives which is what people love to see. It’s the beautiful snapshots, milestones in our lives. We never know what happend behind the scene before the picture was uploaded. We only get to see the good. The bad and the ugly have been eliminated so social media is not real. In life we experience all three of them, the good, the bad and the ugly, not just one of them. Stop setting snaps or images on social media as your life goals and starting working on #realgoals.

3 – Be grateful of what you have

Also very important in this process of not comparing yourself to others is being grateful. Wow I’ve had my periods of being super ungrateful. Nothing was good enough, nothing was coming quick enough. Nothing was going my way as I planned. Well I have learned that life doesn’t always goes they way you want it to go. That’s something every human-being on this earth has to deal with. I know sometimes it’s easier than said but when we wake up we have a choice of how we want to look at our lives and start the day. Do we want to get up, be ungrateful and complain every single second of the day. Or do we want to look life from a different angle by being grateful of what we have right now and work hard and fight to achieve our goals? It’s up to us right? I choose to go for the last one. I hope after today read, you do too.

3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

That’s it for today guys. Tell me, has there been situations where you continuously compared yourself to others? How did it make you feel?

*Images in this post are from unsplash.com


  1. 9th September 2017 / 10:16 am

    These are great tips, awesome that you write about this topic!

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:51 pm

      I’m planning to do more of those so stay tuned! 🙂

  2. 9th September 2017 / 10:55 am

    There is so much on social media these days that it can be hard not to compare your life with theirs. But these people do not have a perfect life, they just share what they want you to see. x

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:50 pm

      Exactly my point! Thanks for your comment Laura!

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:50 pm

      Thanks Kamille!

  3. 9th September 2017 / 7:28 pm

    Lovely! Now I just have to find it in me to start implementing your advice!

  4. 9th September 2017 / 8:21 pm

    So difficult to not compare your own beginnings with someone else’s middle (I think that’s a famous quote :)??), thanks for reminding us newbies not to compare all the time. Love your blog and followed your YouTube Channel.

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:49 pm

      Aww thanks for the follow Jen! Appreciate it!

  5. 10th September 2017 / 2:00 pm

    Love this post, love the pictures too! Being grateful is a new goals I am going to set myself to be more mindfully grateful! Thanks for the read and inspiration!

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:49 pm

      Your welcome Danielle. PS: I got the pictures from unsplash.com

  6. 10th September 2017 / 3:28 pm

    Very sweet and inspirational post. We all do have our own paths, and they are forged in mystery. We cannot judge each other, or compare ourselves to each other.

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:47 pm

      Exactly! Thanks for your comment Rose

  7. 10th September 2017 / 5:18 pm

    “Don’t see life s a competition.” One of the best quotes I’ve ever heard. 🙌🏾 It’s so easy to compare and compete, to think we aren’t this or that if we don’t have what someone else has. It’s very important to pay attention to YOUR pathway. Who cares if you’re stil taking the bus while that person has a Lamborghini? Enjoy that bus ride! And If you really want that car, that other person can’t stop you from getting one! When it’s your turn, it’ll come.

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:47 pm

      You took the words outta my mouth Haneef!

  8. 11th September 2017 / 11:46 am

    Amazing post. I love this most. Thanks for sharing.

    • Trudy Danso
      12th September 2017 / 4:46 pm

      Thanks Priyanka!

  9. 15th September 2017 / 9:59 pm

    This is a great post. #2 is sooo true! It’s so easy to get caught up with the “glamour” of some people’s social media feeds, and I guess of some people’s lives in general! Thanks for the read. Great inspiration to keep striving towards your own goals!

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